#notokay

I had a long internal debate about whether or not I would post this piece. This has nothing to do with any home or life remedies, but it very much as a lot to do with what’s going on in our world today.

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I was reading an article last night about a tweet that went viral from Kelly Oxford (@KellyOxford). She wrote “Women: tweet me your first assaults. They aren’t just stats. I’ll go first. Old man on city bus grabs my “p*” and smiles at me. I’m 12.”

If that doesn’t give you chills and a stomach ache all at the same time, I don’t know what would.

This conversation began in light of the recently leaked video from Presidential Nominee, Donald Trump. As I’m sure everyone has already seen or heard, he brags about being able to grab and kiss women, and do whatever he wants to them.

There are so many people who think they can do/say whatever they want about another human being, but that’s not okay. What happened to treating people by the Golden Rule. Treat others the way you would like to be treated?

Instead we have children watching TV asking what these comments mean. We have children learning what to do when there is a shooter in their school. That hurts my heart something fierce.

We have to stop acting like we own another person and can do whatever we want. We have to start treating each other with love and kindness. Reading those tweets from all of those women’s FIRST assaults put a frog in my throat and ache in my heart. What is even worse is that far too many people (not just women) have had not only one assault, but multiple.

I’ve had three. The first, I was five. A neighbor asked me to play in the backyard in his tent. He then told me I should take off my clothes. The second, I was about 9. My mom and I were at the mall and a man exposed himself. The third, I was at a party in college. A man pushed me up against a fence and wanted to take off my pants, saying he “wanted to eat my f* p*”.

These memories are not okay. The fact that they ever happened is not okay. The fact that they keep happening and people think they have the right to treat another person this way is not okay.

We need to all (women and men), stick together and treat each other better. We need to respect each other. We need to spread love not hatred. I know nothing is as easy as saying it, but maybe, just maybe if we all say it and wake up each day saying, “today I am going to be the best person I can be. I am going to treat others and myself with respect. I am going to make the world better, happier, and spread joy.” Maybe then, we won’t see as many (and hopefully none) of these awful stories about how people talk and treat women (or men).

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